Proverbs 15:23 NLT – Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!
Some of you may have wondered what happen to me and my blog since it has been a month since I have posted anything new. Well, I am in transition between jobs. I am staying in a place where I have limited internet access. But my thoughts have been on getting back to this blog and back to what I started a few years ago.
Recently, Wendy and I went out with friends. We were talking about all the things that Wendy didn’t like to eat when we were first married. My wife then told them that I introduced her to lots of foods she had never had before. That’s when I stuck my foot in my mouth. That is when I said, “Yes, I was the reason that Wendy is fat.” At first there was an awkward silence in the car in which I knew I made a mistake. My wife’s friend jumped on me and said, “Wendy is not fat!” I could not apologize fast enough or often enough. My wife was gracious and continued to say that it was no big deal and she admitted to a weight problem.
The problem isn’t that I was wrong in what I said. After all, She is overweight and she knows it. It was how I said it. I was cold and insensitive. Even though I have lost weight I am still not where I should be by a long shot so there is a lot of hypocrisy in my words. In fact, it was the very words someone said to me a few years back that hurt me and started me thinking about starting this weight loss journey.
The Apostle James said, “We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check”. I am not perfect by any means. So I want to publicly say I am sorry to my wife. I never wanted to be “that guy”. I love you, baby.
Dear Lord, Help me to season my words with grace and love. I want to encourage and lift up others. Help me to speak life into the dry bones of those I encounter. Help me to love my wife the way you love me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
“Lord, Fill my mouth with worthy stuff
And nudge me when I’ve said enough!”